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Do you remember the first crush you ever had? Do you remember that one you pined for, but never approached? If only you had the guts to say hi, send her a note, and ask her to the dance. We all have that one girl or guy that we had a vicious crush on through high school, college, or after. We never said anything, and now we are left wondering… what if?
Why didn’t we say anything? Fear of rejection, fear of losing them as a friend? When we look in the mirror, we see something completely different from what everyone else sees. We see our flaws and our mistakes, we know every reason why we don’t deserve the person that we have put up on a pedestal. What we fail to realize is that they are almost always doing the same thing. There are millions of people out there just like you, seeing all the reasons they don’t deserve you.
Your number one obstacle in life will be learning how to see yourself as a 10. Once you do, others will also. When we tell ourselves that we deserve to be happy, and we believe it, it releases some of the fear. It makes us want to go for all of the things that we desire. Including that person you think you don’t deserve. Don’t allow them to be the biggest regret of your life, tell them before they marry someone else.
Parts 1, 2, 3, 4 and 5 of this story originally appeared in Issue 84, 86, 87, 88 and 89 of the Gents Cafe Newsletter. You can read them here, here, here, here and here.
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