This story originally appeared on the Gents Cafe Newsletter. You can subscribe here.
Let me share a story that a client shared with me, and for the sake of this story, let’s call him Alex.
Alex is a young corporate professional who once believed success hinged on the vanity of appearance. He invested thousands of dollars into fashion just to be relevant. Each day began with a carefully chosen outfit based on what he believed others would value, yet beneath the polished exterior, Alex felt a lingering emptiness.
One day, Alex discovered an old photograph of his younger self—a snapshot of pure joy, wearing a simple t-shirt and jeans, surrounded by laughter and friends. It was a moment of revelation: the happiness in that image wasn’t about the clothes; it was about feeling truly alive. He realized at that moment the reason why he looked so good was because he was unburdened by expectation. He was free, liberated… he felt good!
Determined to reclaim that joy, Alex embarked on a journey of self-discovery. Embracing authenticity became the first step, shedding the weight of societal expectations. This newfound freedom ignited a spark of inner confidence, long buried under layers of self-doubt.
With confidence came expressive dressing. Alex began choosing outfits that resonated with personal emotions and ambitions, each piece a reflection of the vibrant spirit within. This shift wasn’t just about style; it was about crafting a personal narrative, one that celebrated individuality.
As Alex prioritized self-care, engaging in activities that nurtured both mind and body, life transformed. The world seemed brighter, relationships deepened, and a sense of fulfillment replaced the old void. Friends and colleagues noticed the change, often remarking on the newfound glow and magnetic presence.
Alex’s journey is a testament to the power of “Feel good, then look good.” By focusing on inner happiness and authenticity, Alex discovered a style that was not only unique but profoundly enriching. True style, Alex learned, is about the confidence and joy that radiate from within, elevating every aspect of life.
The journey to true style is not about conforming to societal expectations but about embracing who you are. By focusing on what makes you feel good first, you unlock a style that is both empowering and liberating. Remember, the most stylish people are those who are comfortable in their own skin, radiating confidence from the inside out, because at the end of the day, what we wear is purely pieces of fabric. It’s our energy and presence that brings it to life.
Part 1 of this story originally appeared in Issue 97 of the Gents Cafe Newsletter. You can read it here.
